Milan has always been that students show Lynn is past hope. At that time, the college students will read a lot of philosophy books, and show Lin even Nietzsche is who do not know, every day only to read economic news and fashion magazines. She never participated in community activities that most college students are keen on. To study hard and actively participate in community activities of Milan, Xiu Lin is a again, compensation, but the woman, even Lin show every formal and conservative dress has also become a powerful proof of her vulgar. One day, Milan finally unbearable publicly grumble Xiu Lin, said: “every day you think in the end some what you in the head with a shell. The face of Milan’s harsh interrogation, show Lin, a face to face, asked: “what’s wrong with me? What are you thinking?” “I don’t have a particularly great goal, but at least it’s not like you don’t have an idea. As a college student, is not to have a sense of responsibility to the community?” Xiu Lin of impassioned Milan only under a sentence, then turned and said: “I don’t know what you can do for the community, and what contribution? A person who can not support himself, in the end can be responsible for the community? That’s true!” Milan heart even if there are thousands of words, is sufficient to disprove Xiu Lin’s point of view, but in the face of escape debate show Lin back, she can say only one word, “layman!” Ten years later, an accidental opportunity, Milan met Xiu Lin. After graduation has been found not suitable for the work of Milan, temporary boarding in a married sister, the day just go out to the bread shop to buy bread. “Ah, what a coincidence: after graduation, you have what you like?” Xiu Lin looks like ten years ago. Or, she let her face one’s face glowing with health looks more beautiful. Milan because the pressure is too great, not only the skin becomes rough, and was also started to put on weight, very lonely. Always pay attention to the management of Xiu Lin, in her ten years of accumulated work experience, won the favor of a foreign enterprise, just for a job. Milan also vaguely heard someone mention, show Lin is now a lot of money, but also married a very capable accountant, the day is very easy. “How to buy so much bread?” Milan asked. “Well, I started a few years ago and regularly in a pro class to do social services, which are bought for children to eat.” “You? You didn’t care about it before?” “I don’t know that I have a class in the middle of the job,” I just listened to the manager. I have nothing to help, so I have time to buy some food to see them.” From the show Lynn words, do not see a false display of affection she seems to be genuinely and sincerely, in service to others. Is now a tired of life in Milan, but in Xiu Lin who see the University of their own shadow. After graduating from college, Milan has never done social services, because she even solve their own food and clothing have difficulties, the ideal long ago has been more and more far away. Milan Leng in situ show looked at Lin’s back, Xiu Lin at the moment is a holding huge gift bag, ready to go to the delivery of gifts Santa Claus. Today, the money to earn money, you can enjoy eating and drinking show, and once with lofty ideals, trying to transform the world of Milan, actually in ten years has created such a big gap, which makes Milan has been no small blow. In that time, the number of people who are not keen on community activities, and the number of people who have dedicated social consciousness. Not only is Milan, many young people like to the intellectuals themselves, vaguely outlined their ideal society. Now, a girl in her early twenties, it seems almost no such fantasy, but more concerned about reality, but this is only relative to the past.
Sooner or later, people should learn to secular. “Life is hard”, we also know that life is not an easy thing for anyone. However, observation of the thirty year old people. Especially after thirty years old woman, will find that this part of suffering from the “secular” of the cognitive too late. Some women can’t first learn to secular and feel remorse, and some women often sense of theto the let a person become secular world that could not go to sleep at night, and some women in the secular world, but no aware of the existence of the secular. No matter how, a little bit can be determined, if they can be able to realize that the secular is the reality of the truth, then it will not be so confused. Let me put it another way Husband is experience to young turn a blind eye to something, the original has a so important value, such as: will make money, designer clothes, houses, cars, stable life and so on, these twenties disapproval things, now for them, have become so important. They have become the ordinary people who despise. The problem is, no one is willing to admit that he has no that by simply become sophisticated and vulgar. If someone dare evaluation, they fear will grab the collar strike violently. However, they will argue that they only know “reality” and have. But no matter how to say, clearly is the same view, why in the twenties to realize that the “secular”, and in the thirty years after the realization of the “reality”? Twenty years old is to emphasize the “pure” period. The vast majority of women in their twenties, just follow this trend. There is no life plan, and before the age of thirty, and other people become ordinary people, in the world. If as soon as possible to understand the significance of secular, and money befriend, may be in after the age of thirty or forty or fifty years old to live gracefully. This is not to say that only become secular, to elegant life, but that, if we can abandon the cleanliness of money and real, not as in years old to go after, but also for the money and had exhausted life. I would occasionally see over the age of 40, but still live a wonderful woman. Whether they are aware of this, they must have been out of the ordinary people’s ideas, and preferred the secular”.
Life is a continuation of choice. A number of choices are combined to form the framework of life, and these choices determine the psychological tendency and character of people. Our fate, or “eight”, another name is the psychological tendency of. Talented woman should understand the fork in the road of life, you should make a choice. However, they tend to make a very difficult decision when they face a choice. Although they will always be “in the case of a choice” to defend themselves, but those who go against the original intention of the choice, and ultimately blame their own psychological factors, it is their own psychological factors that make them live a mature, the will of a collapse. Of course, life is not always the best. I also made it clear that people who don’t want to be married to a Christian family or professional soldiers, police. But I ended up breaking my own rule, marrying an Air Force captain, and he was the son of the priest. When a woman makes the choice to be the closest to her life, she will have fewer regrets than others, so that you can live a good life. Although it is impossible to determine whether such a woman is all different, but at least it can be determined that they are smart woman. After a long observation, I find that they have some common ground. Change their psychological tendency is not a short time to be able to do, especially after thirty years of age, has been stable down the psychological tendency, it is more difficult to change. Twenty year old female friends, taking advantage of your values and psychological tendencies are not fixed, while you have a lot of choice, you should start to adjust their attitude towards life. To write this book is to help the more than 20 years of female friends with mature psychology, make them become richer, happier, more beautiful choice.
When He Qing was in high school, it was a legend in our school. Her academic performance across the country ranked fifty, she not only learning ability, but also versatile, not to become a singing, art or sports, she has a extraordinary strength, but she is now a very sad girl. Later, the girl is no doubt into the best universities in the country. Her goal is to get a college degree, and then go to the study abroad to continue their studies abroad. She always says she doesn’t want to be distracted by any of the things that have not realized her dream. But, in a few years we were surprised to hear about her negative news. Contact with a boy the original University times, two people love the abyss. Later, to her and is serving her boyfriend study together in retirement, do not hesitate to apply for suspension. In the face of Zhou’s friend’s advice, to say: no one’s love, can be called true love if there is no real love, life and what value? And I have a plan for the future. You don’t have to worry about it.” Although the friends and family around to worry about her, but also feel that with her wisdom, should be able to handle this problem. But, waiting for her boyfriend to come back, two people soon parted. He Qing in the loss, even the plan has long study also gave up. She also converted the target, and began to prepare for the public examination, but the results are not satisfactory. She is just a small clerk in a company. Later, she changed a few companies are not satisfied, until now there is no stable work. Heard, she is still hesitant to participate in other types of public examinations. He Qing, why is life so unhappy. 2 is it because a let her wait for you, but eventually abandoned her ruthless boyfriend? Or, as long as she can pass the exam, life will go on a flat road? Of course, He Qing is a smart man, it is possible to pass the exam. However, I still doubt that her life is from the “good life” and can equate. Because she is very talented, but the lack of the creation of a happy life. He Qing in order to a no good future boyfriend, it is easy to give up their dreams, this is a big mistake. If she can recognize this mistake, that luckily, lest she did not reflect the consciousness, but find an excuse to cover up their mistakes, then, there is no guarantee that she will not make the same mistake again. Women who have a gift, when they are in the face of the reality of the choice, if with the immature psychological tendency, then, unfortunately, the opportunity to come to their heads will be greater than the average person. He Qing had made up his mind that he would not care about anything other than to learn, and that he was determined to go to the foreign countries, but she did not have the choice to make. Therefore, who also can not predict the future of her, whether it will in the face of strong determination, again to make the opposite decision.
It’s not a gift, it’s a good time. Looks this good is the genius of the world, such as: from the called “genius”, later into the Ivy League school (Ivy League) attended the woman; or, the father is a diplomat, so proficient in five languages of woman; or due to outstanding entrepreneurial ability, in three ten years become the richest woman – – – – – – we will inevitably cast doubt on their own, a genius in this at the helm of the world’s era, ordinary me, whether can only serve as a supporting stand aside? Like high school exam report card on the top, the country’s 105903rd place, do you also think his life ranked well? But, this is just your own position! Open your eyes and see what you have experienced in the last few days of your life. You will see that there is no close relationship between the two. In order to let oneself in the material and spiritual enjoyment, experience the happiness of life, we must look forward to the future, the future of life will be more beautiful. Although the definition of a good day varies from person to person, most people’s ideas are about the same. When people see some conditional overexpression of women in the good old days, but live in unhappy and dissatisfied, everyone will whisper: “it seems really life hangs in the balance. All this was meant to be!” This view may be too subjective, not in line with the actual. However, on the question of whether to live a good life, than the “gifted” and “life is good” is more influential is “smart”, it determines whether you can make a wise choice.
I don’t know where I’ve been. The original chaos of vision suddenly bright, no longer in their twenties, as if they were covered with eyes, see the world, and no longer to say anything, what to do and panic. And others, like alone a person like free; when a person alone, can also according to get together with friends Ying like happiness. Although I did not know everything but has become, deeply understand how to become a person be wealthy in knowledge. I was thirty years old when I was twenty-nine years old, and I couldn’t understand why people use the “Party” to give thirty years of special meaning. Until at the age of thirty, I found that, in their 30s and twenties really do not like. Now I finally understand, thirty year old predecessors why can be without scruple the ground chat and do what they want to do things. “People should ignore the life?”” This was the question I was in my early twenties, but the answer to the question was the first gift I was thirty years old. Perhaps because I am a reporter, so always like to pay attention to all kinds of people, as well as their lives, after a long observation, found that some of the women who live happy have some common features, and these seemingly insignificant features are generally easy to ignore. See for a long time not to contact my friends in an accident, they found the situation almost and I imagined not much difference between. I often think, if more than 20 years old, with the desire to create a better life, so after thirty years of age can have a taste; more than 20 years old, if you always use a pessimistic attitude to face the future, then it is still living in misery. See the situation, I see light suddenly. If the psychological mature person can create a happy life, then learn, imitate their psychology not got it? Because the “psychological tendency” of a woman decides the life of the state. Since the understanding of the way to make life happy, and began to practice, their lives have changed, found themselves happier, richer and healthier than before. But if I can be in my early twenties, I realize that I can make my life more beautiful. In this regard, I have always felt very sorry. Although today’s life cycle has a small change, but no matter how, in their twenties is the best choice for life, and to the age of thirty, career, marriage, life attitude, etc., all of which have been finalized, and no more easily changed. That is to say, it’s too late to change the age of thirty. My reason for writing this book is really hope in the twenties of female friends, don’t like me as foolishly spent twenty years old this age stage. For a woman who has a better life, I think, this book will provide you with useful help.
If life again once, I want to I still hope to spend as much as in the past, romantic and perfect in their twenties, because I firmly believe that the “one step at a time,” broom to: valuable life experience, such values dominate my style of doing things, so I work hard. I often feel that salary does not matter, but sense of honor is very important, this concept is often other people as “stupid”, but I still like to do that now has the title “Ashin anchor. Midnight one socket in the office and I; at three o’clock in the morning the earthquake happened, I will immediately appear in front of the screen spots earthquake news, let the audience frighten a pectinata, joking that I live on television. In fact, this is because that time I still work in the studio to work overtime to cut the tape, to produce more work. However, such values of the younger generation must be right? And it’s not true that many young people will say that she is not so hard, as can get the same aura. But really, you go, or do choose lazy personality. You and I, we must work steadily, go straight. So, a performance is everything. Read inhabiting the accomplishment of the book, let me re back view, if Taurus I can not so desperately to adhere to a kind of value view, I now is not can be more easily? Perhaps it is. So, this book is wonderful, it is the one that calls for another possibility for your life, but you must open your heart to accept different values and experiences. Her book is “sincerely hope in the twenties of female friends, do not reason her as foolishly spent twenty years old this age stage, say the authors. Since the thirties to reality, not in the twenties to secular?” Yes it is, now a lot of teaching new concept of others opinions are said, we these people come should not always hold a moral hat, for example, to teach others to and honest honest and so on, but should be taught after Qin recognize reality of the situation, so that they had more competitive. But, again, this is in Qiu Shu “in disorderly fashion through the age of twenty”? I think not, otherwise inhabiting accomplishment in the thirties when not into a best-selling writer ah! You said is not? So, where you must leave a trace, you have to live with your heart, always thinking about the day. This book valuable point is that, previous to 20 where at the age of the intentions and thinking, now through the text, experience tells junior, use the knowledge, you can be more saves time and effort to obtain happiness, the key depends on you how to capture the essence. However, please be true to your own happiness……
A turn over to open the book, the author Nan Renshu Pitou will speak: “twenties when didn’t touch the good men, in their thirties is difficult to marriage and a good man; in their thirties when began to accumulate wealth, in their thirties is even 15 mando to save in the hand… Who said 20 years old can’t live secular?” The witty for me, simply Qiu wake-up call like in scold me like, suddenly, feel themselves may not be qualified to write a preface, because I am the twenties live is “an ideal and romantic”. I began to think about what I was doing when I was twenty years old. In school, I was studying for a large department, Department of business administration and information studies, obtaining a master’s degree; in business, I from normal graduated as a primary school teacher, switch to when a reporter and anchor, from a newspaper has been poaching to the TV station; in love, many men in pursuit, but were never meant to be, never want to marry a rich man, but has been looking for a man of feeling. When a person is very good, family and wealthy men in pursuit of me, but I was hesitant, newspaper several sister level colleagues told me: “you stupid!! you now twenty years old and too young and naive, to thirty years old, you have the pressure of life, you become a reality, you will know this man have much good, when the time comes, don’t regret ah!” I didn’t listen to their words, because I still believe that the gender harmony, the feeling is very important. Even now, I feel that the feelings of things should be very difficult so completely realistic reason. And, I have questioned their tone – is it true that I really do? However, because I’m not secular, will let me become a hardworking and down-to-earth “Ashin anchor in the press”, and not the so-called “married into the giants” slightest? Because I am not secular, it will make me unhappy? There is No. Perhaps, life is not the so-called “happiness”, because I still need to continue to work on this basic question, but I love the work of the continuous pursuit of self realization, this whole process is to let me feel satisfied and happy, although occasionally some setbacks. “In order to be happy, we should learn to be secular and realistic,” the author said.” I think, it depends on your definition of happiness is what. My classmates, some people think that with the children together, watching the children one day grow up, that is the happiest bereaved thing, so she choose to leave the workplace, concentrate on at home with the kids, every day, in the interaction with the children close, she won happiness. In addition to a classmate, she felt should make a lot of line, and to live independently to be happy. So, she is now driving cars, lived in the mansion, not married, but have a love with aluminum. She also feel very happy, but also often tell me, how to get women to get the body of happiness My classmates are from Tainan, most of them choose their own want to live a happy life and then try to go to the reality, but not a determined to marry a cable, it seems that they seem to have a light point to view their own life. Instead I know some women in the news office and the Taipei City, most of them will set to make their own living conditions better, the goal of life. Perhaps, different from the workplace, different people have different values, but I can not prove that this is the era of social differences, or, it is only a coincidence of the times, but through each different era, people can get the inspiration is that the personality determines everything “